Lately, I’ve been feeling a shift—one I didn’t quite expect, but couldn’t ignore. It’s like everything I thought I wanted, everything I was chasing, suddenly felt… different. Slower. Heavier. More meaningful.
The past few years have been a whirlwind—real estate, Snatched Snatchers, the highs and lows of entrepreneurship—but something recently made me stop and ask myself:What am I really building? And more importantly, who am I becoming in the process?
Leaps of Faith—And the Ones I Didn’t Take
I've always been a great sales girl in retail and banking so real estate would be a piece of cake (so I thought). In 2024, I had a few sales during the worst year of the real estate business. 70% of agents quit due to the downturn of the economy. However, this was the year I decided to quit my full time banking job to become a full time agent. I could no longer ignore the burning desire of full time entrepreneurship in my spirit. Do I regret it? No, because ultimately I still made the same income I would've made working at my full time job. More importantly I gained more knowledge about business operations.
Although, I do regret not going back to school. I remember contemplating about two or three years ago. I was sitting in orientation to learn more about the master's program for dietitian at LIU. As I looked around I saw nothing but Caucasian students. Don't get me wrong I've been through this before. You know, being the "only black girl" in the classroom.
In fact I graduated from NYIT with my bachelor's degree right next door. I endured so many racist encounters at that school honestly I was tired of the "only black girl" position. Then when I found out I had to take 5-6 prerequisite classes to enter the program, I shied away from the path altogether. I basically put it on hold and decided to focus on other areas in my life.
Losing Momentum—and Myself—in the Process
I don't know when I lost focus on snatched snatchers. Once I started focusing more of my time in the real estate office and chasing buyers and sellers, I stopped chasing waist trainer prospects. I dedicated at least three years to this fitness business trying to "figure it out".
How were these girls making 6 figures plus with the online business industry? I watched YouTube videos, invested thousands of dollars in Ads, listened to podcasts, made content everyday, learned how to edit my website even paid for help but I still couldn't crack the code.
Sure, I would have one or two online orders weekly but it wasn't feasible. The only time I made good money was when I did pop up shops. But, even those were risky because it wasn't a guaranteed return. Once girls, started charging $150+ for vending booths I decided to just continue working online.
At some point I think I lost hope. I used to have such big dreams for snatched snatchers. I knew I had a great product with better quality than most. It just needed to be constantly seen by more people. This would be one of the biggest fitness companies in the world.
Eventually I got tired of trying to figure it out. I think I grew somewhat of a resentment towards snatched snatchers. I poured so much love and energy into it but it didn't love me back, at least not the way I wanted it to. I didn't cancel the business but I stopped showing up as often. I went from working on it everyday to maybe once a week to once a month.
The Real Cost of Chasing Success
So I switched paths and put my energy elsewhere. Real estate was supposed to help me gain capital for financial freedom. My plan was to get more money and invest it back into a team for snatched snatchers... So where did it go wrong? It's still going but there are times when I do get discouraged.
Real estate is the type of industry where if you don't hustle 24/7, you don't eat. I think people think realtors have this glamorous life where you just show beautiful houses and you close the deal, that's it! That is so far from the truth.
Have you ever worked in retail? Imagine having a difficult customer but instead of just dealing with them for that one day you have to deal with them for three months.
There are different types of people you deal with, some are easier than others. However, I'm so tired of my paycheck depending on the emotions of another person.
You can work with someone for months, show them 50-100 houses and then they wake up one morning and decide they change their mind on the entire process. No you don't get your gas money back for driving 100+ miles and most importantly you can never get your time back. Real estate taught me how valuable your time is.
Now that I’m entering a new stage in my life, I’ve had moments where I worried I wasted too much time trying to “figure things out.” I used to believe everything had to be perfect before taking the next big step—career lined up, business booming, finances flawless. But lately, I’m learning that life doesn’t wait for perfect timing.
The Shift I Never Saw Coming
Maybe the truth is… this next chapter isn’t about having it all figured out.
It’s about growing into who I’m meant to be—because in 20 weeks, I’ll be stepping into my biggest role yet: becoming a mother.
This new journey is personal, overwhelming, and beautiful all at once. And even though I don’t have every answer, I know this: I’m ready to keep showing up, keep growing, and finally start embracing the woman I’m becoming—on purpose, and with purpose.
Maybe life isn't about getting everything perfect before the next step. Maybe it's about trusting that, even with all the detours, I'm still moving forward. Either way, this next chapter is just the beginning.